Well, I've started a new book called "To Hell With All That, Loving and Loathing Our Inner Housewife" by Caitlin Flanagan. I admit the title caught my eye but the price swayed me into buying it....$3 at Big Lots on sale for $2. I figured if it's really bad I'm only out a couple of bucks. Anyway the first chapter is title Virgin Bride. Caitlin is not opposed to marriage or womens rights but she is thinking that with our new found freedoms as women, we are starting to relish the past more such as the white wedding. Her writing is comical in that she proposes that it's rather absurd that brides now are looking for the perfect wedding with the white dress which would indicate a pure woman when in fact we have gone through a sexual revolution where it is pretty much unheard of to be a virgin. Have you watched "Say Yes to the Dress"? What is up with a $5000 dress. Crap, whats up with a dress over $500! Mine cost less than that and worked just great. We've been married 25 years so either he REALLY liked the dress or he wasn't lying when he said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. She makes fun of the bride who spends half a years salary on a five hour party and points out that weddings, like Christmas and every other holiday, have become commercialized and big business! What she says is relevant in that my daughter is of marrying age and I have one going in that direction. Luckily both have said they want beach weddings. I was one who had a big wedding but not one who relishes the thought of planning one for my daughters. Call me a bad mother but get real, I'm watching two of my friends going through it now and it ain't pretty from my vantage point. Anyway, I'm anxious to continue my reading. The table of contents at least promises more comic relief!
Speaking of weddings, the two I referred to earlier. One is an only child whose parents have been looking forward to this day for many years. The wedding will be a beautiful one with nothing held back. The reception is at the parents home which was built in the 1800's and has been restored with a beautiful yard which will be decked out. The other is from a divorced family, nothing wrong with that but mom really can't afford an expensive wedding. This one will be smaller than the first but no less pricey as the bride wants it all. Again, I'm a bad mother but I hope I have the guts to put my foot down at some point.
Another thought, why do we watch a show about four brides rating each others wedding! It's the bride and grooms special day so who cares what other people think. If a bride wants to serve pizza at her wedding (they didn't give her a good rating for that) then she should be able to! What we do to please others!
Well, gotta go satisfy my inner housewife and warm up leftovers!
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